John Wayne in ‘McLintock’ ~“You’ve got to be a man first before you can be a gentleman”
Whoa! Resonates strong with me !
Here’s Dan Steele’s take on it …an interesting extract below
“Gentlemanliness presupposes manliness. It’s a softening, a harnessing of the core characteristics of masculinity: strength, courage, mastery, and honor. A gentleman, as scholar Harvey Mansfield put it, is a manly man with polish.
The respect given a gentleman is thus premised on constraint.”